So, What is Empathy?
Empathy is the ability to understand another's thoughts, feelings, and condition from their point of view; to think from another's perspective & not just your own
"One day while surfing the web, I came across an article entitled, "Why Some People Have a Lack of Empathy And How To Deal With Them". It shares great tips! Great tips that can help many gain confidence and live their best life! Below, I share highlights from the article. Hope it helps!"
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"One day while surfing the web, I came across an article entitled, "Why Some People Have a Lack of Empathy And How To Deal With Them". It shares great tips! Great tips that can help many gain confidence and live their best life! Below, I share highlights from the article. Hope it helps!"
Chóng Lǎoshī 老師 ☺#thechonglaoshi
Signs that Someone Lacks Empathy...
- "They jump fast into criticizing others without putting themselves in other people’s shoes.
- They seem to be cold or just out of touch for people that are suffering or are less fortunate.
- They believe 100% in the rightness of their own ideas and/or beliefs, and judge anyone who does not hold their beliefs as wrong, ignorant or stupid.
- They have trouble feeling happy for others.
- They have trouble making or keeping friends.They have trouble getting along with family members.They feel entitled to receiving favors and use you to serve their needs without showing appreciation. They will even get offended if they don’t get their way.In a group setting, they will talk a lot about themselves and their lives without really caring about what other people share.
- They do or say something that hurts a friend or a loved one, and tend to blame his/her actions on them. They truly believe that the fault is in the person receiving the hurt because they reacted poorly, were rude or were oversensitive."
How To Deal With Non-Empathetic People...
"1. Don’t Take Their Anger or Judgments Personally
By doing this, you can get off the emotional roller coaster. It’s not about you. Remind yourself that they are the ones that have a problem connecting emotionally with others at a deeper level. There’s nothing wrong with you!
2. Don’t Try to Make Them Understand Your Feelings
Trying to instill empathy or insights in them is a waste of your time and energy. This will only increase their anger and judgement.
3. Talk About Facts with Them
Instead of talking to them about how you feel, or how something they did or said made you feel, talk about facts and what you think. It’s easier to communicate this way because they won’t feel blamed or shamed.
4. If You Don’t Live with This Person, Try to Distance Yourself from Their Company
You don’t have to end the friendship or stop visiting your family member, but you need to set some boundaries and be mindful of your interaction with them. Keep the connection superficial to avoid arguments and don’t expect depth and understanding.
5. Cultivate or Nurture Relationships with People Who You Trust
Spend time with people who you trust and who make you feel safe so that you can feel comfortable sharing your inner world and your feelings with them. These are people who might have shown signs of empathy in the past.
6. Know That Your Value and Worth Does Not Depend on Their Validation and Opinion of You
Our self-worth should never be based on approval or validation from others.
7. Take Loving Actions Towards Yourself
Offer yourself kindness and practice doing things that reflect self-love – eat healthy, get enough rest, pursue your dreams, work on yourself, develop a spiritual life, surround yourself with loving and positive people.
8. If You Feel Too Overwhelmed, Get Professional Help
Find a caring and compassionate therapist or life coach who can be there for you and offer guidance during painful times. Unfortunately, our friends and family can’t always provide all of the emotional support that we need at times.
If the person that you’re dealing with shows a willingness to be more open to change and become more empathetic and caring, then you have a real opportunity to strengthen your relationship with them."
By doing this, you can get off the emotional roller coaster. It’s not about you. Remind yourself that they are the ones that have a problem connecting emotionally with others at a deeper level. There’s nothing wrong with you!
2. Don’t Try to Make Them Understand Your Feelings
Trying to instill empathy or insights in them is a waste of your time and energy. This will only increase their anger and judgement.
3. Talk About Facts with Them
Instead of talking to them about how you feel, or how something they did or said made you feel, talk about facts and what you think. It’s easier to communicate this way because they won’t feel blamed or shamed.
4. If You Don’t Live with This Person, Try to Distance Yourself from Their Company
You don’t have to end the friendship or stop visiting your family member, but you need to set some boundaries and be mindful of your interaction with them. Keep the connection superficial to avoid arguments and don’t expect depth and understanding.
5. Cultivate or Nurture Relationships with People Who You Trust
Spend time with people who you trust and who make you feel safe so that you can feel comfortable sharing your inner world and your feelings with them. These are people who might have shown signs of empathy in the past.
6. Know That Your Value and Worth Does Not Depend on Their Validation and Opinion of You
Our self-worth should never be based on approval or validation from others.
7. Take Loving Actions Towards Yourself
Offer yourself kindness and practice doing things that reflect self-love – eat healthy, get enough rest, pursue your dreams, work on yourself, develop a spiritual life, surround yourself with loving and positive people.
8. If You Feel Too Overwhelmed, Get Professional Help
Find a caring and compassionate therapist or life coach who can be there for you and offer guidance during painful times. Unfortunately, our friends and family can’t always provide all of the emotional support that we need at times.
If the person that you’re dealing with shows a willingness to be more open to change and become more empathetic and caring, then you have a real opportunity to strengthen your relationship with them."
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